The tragedy of two adopted teen sisters who were both pregnant, and both babies died was recently highlighted in the November 17, 2006 edition of the Chicago Tribune in an article entitled, “2 Teens, 2 births, a family tragedy. DCFS knew of abuse before baby’s death.” As a former foster care case manager (not with DCFS and not in Illinois) my response was probably not unlike most reader’s reactions. I was shocked, outraged, and saddened to read about the situation. Two sisters, ages thirteen and fourteen were pregnant at the same time in the same home. Their single 66 year-old adoptive mother was portrayed to be unaware they were pregnant. The sisters were two of eight adopted children in the home ages ranging 6 to 14. There was some convoluted information stated in the article that concluded that both babies, being born within weeks of each other, are now dead.
Now my response as a person who has experience working in child welfare: I know there are many dynamics involved with a situation like this. One person (or agency) cannot be responsible for all the issues faced with servicing children in foster care. I understand there are reasons the case manager was not quoted, but what about his or her perspective?
I have a well educated friend that works in the business world who said something quite interesting to me about this story…. DCFS was caught slipping on the job. What? How did you come to that conclusion? Well that’s what they are supposed to do, right? Look, even the title of the article states they knew what was going on.” Wow, he truly felt he had given a justified response. Then I realized that THIS IS WHAT MANY PEOPLE THINK about issues in CHILD WELFARE….What happens or doesn’t happen is up to those who work in child welfare, because that’s “what they do.”
I will attempt to briefly restate my response to my friend’s words. “If child welfare workers are the “they” you are referring to, you are basically saying no one else should be scrutinized or held accountable for situations like this?” He nodded in agreement as if I was stating the obvious. I told him “the system” is not solely child welfare workers; it’s the entire community! So it is our fault as individuals in the community. He quickly rebutted, “I am not a social worker how I can be responsible?” Again the sad revelation that this must be a widely held perspective hit me. I continued…the community is at fault when we take a collective apathetic stance and do not get involved with assuring all the kids are okay. How are we at fault as a community? We are at fault for being too busy to mentor. We are at fault for not seeking ways to reach the younger generation, biological family and other kids we are around. It’s our fault when we do not take the time to affirm and encourage our youth instead of always pointing out negative observations. We are at fault for not opening our homes to foster children from our communities. In case you were not aware, there is a severe shortage of qualified homes for the high numbers of children who need placement. We are at fault for witnessing acts of child abuse/neglect and domestic violence and not saying or doing anything because it’s none of our business…When is the last time you did something?
Is it your business now that two teen sisters have two babies that are both now dead?
Or will this simply “be a shame that DCFS didn’t do anything” until the next tragedy?
Who should be outraged?
Everyone Who is to blame?
Everyone Whose fault that all this happened?
EVERYONE We need a collective approach--- we are all responsible!
I guarantee there is not one parent who has raised a child without the assistance and/or input of someone else. When will we wake up and understand the following is not simply a cliché: “It takes a village to raise a child.”
What about the fact that the teens did not get pregnant by themselves; WHO AND WHERE ARE THE FATHERS OF THE BABIES? T
he article does not mention of the word “father.” I want to suggest to the journalists who report these types of stories to consider the following: Your pen affects the reader’s opinion. Report the story with consideration of all persons involved in a situation and hold all responsible parties accountable present in these situations!
A direct example is the article’s title,” “2 Teens, 2 births, a family tragedy. DCFS knew of abuse before baby’s death.” This reinforces the “they did not do their job” stigma of those associated with child welfare and ignores that child welfare is everyone’s issue, no matter what your profession. I would suggest revising the story title to, “2 teen mothers, 2 babies lost, community fails again.”
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